Some of you may rememberÂ the phrases I never want to hear again, like â€œgit â€˜er doneâ€ and â€œIâ€™m just sayinâ€™.â€ This time, Iâ€™m picking on Christians (since I am one and all).
Iâ€™m just gonna say itâ€“Christians say some stupid things.Â We think we are being spiritual, Godly, helpful, wise, encouraging, but really we are sticking our big stinky feet in our big open mouth.
There are quite a few phrases within the Church that irk me. Iâ€™m guessing you feel the same.Â Here are the Top 10 Christians phrases I never want to hear againâ€¦starting withâ€¦
1. â€œGuard your heart.â€Â Yes, this phrase is scriptural and comes from Proverbs 4:23. I have usually heard this snippet of scriptureÂ used in reference to a dating relationship. One girl would pray for another, something like this: â€œLord please help her â€˜guard her heartâ€™ in this relationship with this particular boyâ€¦â€ What they really want to pray and what they reallyÂ shouldÂ pray is: â€œLord, help her be sexually pure and stay out of bed in this relationship with this particular boyâ€¦â€ Just pray what you mean.
2. â€œIâ€™ll pray for you.â€Â Okay, this one is tricky, because I donâ€™t want to judge. I want to believe that, when someone says they will pray for you that willÂ actuallyÂ pray. I suspect, however, that all too often Christians throw this phrase out as a nice-ism to either make someone feel better or because they donâ€™t know what else to say.
Side note: I take this phrase very seriously and I want you to know thatÂ when I say that I will pray for youÂ on this blog that I actually will.
3.Â â€œQuiet time.â€Â Iâ€™m going to be honestâ€“I despise this phrase. It does not exist in the Bible (the concept does on some level, perhaps), yet we throw this around like law. Did you have your â€œquiet time?â€ Donâ€™t forgetÂ your â€œquiet time.â€ It goes on and on. How about setting aside time to be quiet before the Lord, yes, but also meeting with Him in the loud times, the crazy times, the exhausting timesâ€“basically throughout your day and throughout your life?
4. â€œI donâ€™t feel led.â€Â This is another time when you just need to say what you mean. More often than not, itâ€™s not that we â€œdonâ€™t feel led,â€ but rather, we just donâ€™tÂ wantÂ to. Instead of being honest, we blame God, as if He was directing us elsewhere.
5. â€œIt was the Lordâ€™s willâ€¦â€Â when something fails.Â Again, this is not always the case, but I have witnessed this phrase become a catch-all to excuse irresponsibility or sin. Perhaps a ministry, or church, or (worst of all) a marriage failed because responsible parties allowed it to fail. Perhaps it reallyÂ wasnâ€™tÂ â€œthe Lordâ€™s will.â€
6. â€œHedge of protection.â€Â I honestly donâ€™t even know where this came from or why people pray it. I have caught myself start to pray it, as well, and I stop in my tracks. Itâ€™s just a silly Christian-ism. Again, pray what you mean.
7. â€œWalk with the Lord.â€Â I donâ€™t dislike this phrase; so much as I think it has become trite. More than that, we say this in front of unbelievers constantly and they must be thinking, â€œWhat the what?â€
8. â€œInvite Jesus into your heart.â€Â Again, I donâ€™t despise this Christian-ism, however, I think besides not being entirely scriptural, it fails to communicate the fact that a life devoted unto Christ is the goalâ€“total surrender, nothing less.
9. â€œSinnerâ€™s prayerâ€ or â€œPrayer of salvation.â€Â This phrase is not Biblical. God reaches us all differently. AuthorÂ Anne Lamott, knowing Jesus was calling her, just said out loud one day, â€œAh, f*^k it.â€ That was the moment of her conversion, making Christ Lord. It isnâ€™t pretty, but itâ€™s reality.
10. â€œJesus loves you.â€Â It is completely 100% true. He does love youâ€¦and me.Â A bumper sticker isnâ€™t the way to communicate His love, however. Action is.
I know you have some to add and I canâ€™t wait to hear them! What Christian phrases do you hope to never hear again? What Christian-isms really irk you?
Nicole Cottrell is trained in the fine art of button-pushing. She uses her skills daily on Modern Reject where she writes about the intersection of faith and culture as well as the unpopular stuff no one else likes to talk about. Nicole is a speaker, writer, discipler, and coffee fanatic. She and her husband planted the Foundation, a network of house churches in Arizona. Nicole lives in Scottsdale with her husband and two little munchkins, three of the coolest and funniest people she knows.
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