This week’s very public spat between gay musician Sir Elton John and the Italian fashion and gay duo Dolce & Gabbana has revealed the need for gay people and all of us to start practicing what we preach – that is to be very GAY. We are talking the talk but not walking the walk.
The Urban Dictionary defined GAY as 1. jovial or happy, good-spirited 2. a homosexual male or female 3. often used to describe something stupid or unfortunate. Now I want to concentrate on the first definition -“ jovial or happy, good-spirited”. Truth be told, neither Sir Elton nor Dolce & Gabbana are the most popular, famous or richest gay people I know, that credit would only go to JESUS. He is the most jovial, happy and good spirited person to ever walk the planet. He was gay even long before gayness became fashionable and acceptable lifestyle. Being gay is more than a sexual choice, it’s a lifestyle choice which brings joy to your life and happiness to others. Jesus exhibited all the qualities of gayness in his interaction with widows, the sick, the hungry, the oppressed, the minorities – he had a good measure of love for everyone.
But Sir Elton John’s attack on Dolce and Gabbana wasn’t an attribute of gayness. Sir Elton took great offence to comments made by Messrs Dolce and Gabbana to an Italian magazine in which Domenico Dolce confessed that he does not agree with gay adoptions, adding that ‘the only family is the traditional one, you are born to a mother and a father — or at least that’s how it should be,’ he continued: ‘I call children of chemistry synthetic children.’ At this Sir Elton angrily replied. ‘How dare you refer to my beautiful children as “synthetic”,’ he raged on Instagram. ‘And shame on you for wagging your judgmental little fingers at IVF… I shall never wear Dolce & Gabbana ever again.’ He then created #BoycottDolceGabbana. But Dolce was merely expressing his personal view.
Which is that children need a mother — something that many will agree with. Besides what he said was informed by Christian views even though he is gay.
I am all for free speech and freedom to choose what sexual preference you desire, even though I tilt toward Dolce & Gabbana’s view that children need a mother and father. But Sir Elton’s attack on the reputation and business of Dolce & Gabbana reveals little practice of being jovial, happy and good-spirited. You can’t just attack someone because you don’t agree with their views, what happened to differences in opinions? An attack on the reputation of Dolce & Gabbana is a total disregard to their skill and business reputation even though they are both gay. An attack on the reputation of Dolce & Gabbana is an attack on the thousands of jobs created through the hard work of Dolce & Gabbana.
My advice to everyone – follow the example of the famous gay man, Jesus. Love even if you don’t agree with others views, tolerate without getting offended, refuse to engage in personal attack because of religious, racial, sexual and gender differences.
Every South African should be as GAY (jovial or happy, good-spirited) as possible. Being gay in South Africa will eliminate xenophobia, racial abuse, domestic violence, women and child abuse – because we will all be good-spirited.