1. Let him know you believe in him. This will empower him to achieve his dreams.
[You made him feel that he was more special than anyone or anything else, before marrying. Work to help him see that again.]
2. Accept your husband for the man he is, instead of wishing you could change this or that.
[Stop concentrating on your spouseâ€™s faults (this makes them look even bigger than real life). Instead, work on your own. Take the â€œlogâ€ out of your own eye, as the Bible says to do in Matthew 7:5.]
3. Help him be a hero to his kids. Speak well of him and the good things that he does.
[You are God’s choice for being your husband’s cheerleader, when it comes to your husband. (And the same goes for him.) Please read Marriage Message #153 – Little Eyes Are Watching]
4. Appreciate the things he does â€”like making repairs around the house.
[Even if he doesn’t do them well â€”at least he’s making the effort â€”which is more than a lot of husbands will do.]
5. Let him spend time with the guys doing â€œguyâ€ things [unless those “guy” things compromise the integrity of your marital relationship].
6. Respect his right to need some space sometimes. It doesnâ€™t mean he doesnâ€™t love you.
7. Stop asking him to throw out his torn, faded jeans. What you hate about them is what he loves about them.
[Learn to choose your battles â€”concentrate on things that really ARE important.]
8. Stop criticizing his mother (or father).
[This may be difficult to do when his family makes life difficult for you. “Speak the truth in love” and â€”motivated by love, when it concerns his family. If this doesn’t help, ask the Lord to show you how to handle the situation in the godliest, most peaceable way possible.]
9. Be patient with him. Make him feel special â€”heâ€™s still someone who craves your approval.
10. Keep looking your best â€”for him â€¦ and for yourself.