Parable Magazine http://www.parable.co.za Faith, Culture and Lifestyle Thu, 19 Sep 2019 00:05:24 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.2.3 レスポンシブデザインの実際 http://www.parable.co.za/%e3%83%ac%e3%82%b9%e3%83%9d%e3%83%b3%e3%82%b7%e3%83%96%e3%83%87%e3%82%b6%e3%82%a4%e3%83%b3%e3%81%ae%e5%ae%9f%e9%9a%9b/ http://www.parable.co.za/%e3%83%ac%e3%82%b9%e3%83%9d%e3%83%b3%e3%82%b7%e3%83%96%e3%83%87%e3%82%b6%e3%82%a4%e3%83%b3%e3%81%ae%e5%ae%9f%e9%9a%9b/#respond Thu, 19 Sep 2019 00:05:24 +0000 http://www.parable.co.za/%e3%83%ac%e3%82%b9%e3%83%9d%e3%83%b3%e3%82%b7%e3%83%96%e3%83%87%e3%82%b6%e3%82%a4%e3%83%b3%e3%81%ae%e5%ae%9f%e9%9a%9b/

レスポンシブデザインの基本は、ビューポートの設定にあります。ビューポートとは、HTMLの表示領域を調整するコードのことで、ヘッドタグ内で記述します。端末ごとに表示領域を変えられるのは、このビューポートのおかげなのです。ただビューポートだけではレスポンシブデザインは完結しません。同時にメディアクエリも記述しなければならないからです。メディアクエリが必要な理由は、端末ごとに適用するCSSを変更しなければならないからです。例えば、画面幅のピクセル数が小さければスマートフォン用のCSSを適用するために、メディアクエリで調整するわけです。因みにメディアクエリはCSSに直接記述することも出来ますが、HTML内のリンクタグで記述することも出来ます。
 さて、そもそもレスポンシブデザインには、苦労して記述するのに足る価値があるのでしょうか。モバイル端末でもストレスなく閲覧できるように調整する方法としては、レスポンシブデザインしかありません。しかもHTMLとCSSでデザインできるため、運用面でも負担が小さい方法と言えるのです。仮にレスポンシブデザインではなく、別の方法でサイトをモバイル端末に対応させようとすれば、サイトを2つ制作しなければならないことになります。この方法を選択するのは自由ですが、間違いなく管理費用は高くなります。
 簡単に言えば、レスポンシブデザインは、サイトの完成後の更新等を楽にする働きがあるのです。それを象徴するのが、「モバイル端末における表示の際も、同一のURLになる」ということです。URLが同じならSEOの費用もそれだけ小さくなるはずです。何故なら、リンク付けを無駄に増やさなくて済むからです。
レスポンシブデザインの基本は、ビューポートの設定にあります。ビューポートとは、HTMLの表示領域を調整するコードのことで、ヘッドタグ内で記述します。端末ごとに表示領域を変えられるのは、このビューポートのおかげなのです。ただビューポートだけではレスポンシブデザインは完結しません。同時にメディアクエリも記述しなければならないからです。メディアクエリが必要な理由は、端末ごとに適用するCSSを変更しなければならないからです。例えば、画面幅のピクセル数が小さければスマートフォン用のCSSを適用するために、メディアクエリで調整するわけです。因みにメディアクエリはCSSに直接記述することも出来ますが、HTML内のリンクタグで記述することも出来ます。
 さて、そもそもレスポンシブデザインには、苦労して記述するのに足る価値があるのでしょうか。モバイル端末でもストレスなく閲覧できるように調整する方法としては、レスポンシブデザインしかありません。しかもHTMLとCSSでデザインできるため、運用面でも負担が小さい方法と言えるのです。仮にレスポンシブデザインではなく、別の方法でサイトをモバイル端末に対応させようとすれば、サイトを2つ制作しなければならないことになります。この方法を選択するのは自由ですが、間違いなく管理費用は高くなります。
 簡単に言えば、レスポンシブデザインは、サイトの完成後の更新等を楽にする働きがあるのです。それを象徴するのが、「モバイル端末における表示の際も、同一のURLになる」ということです。URLが同じならSEOの費用もそれだけ小さくなるはずです。何故なら、リンク付けを無駄に増やさなくて済むからです。
レスポンシブデザインの基本は、ビューポートの設定にあります。ビューポートとは、HTMLの表示領域を調整するコードのことで、ヘッドタグ内で記述します。端末ごとに表示領域を変えられるのは、このビューポートのおかげなのです。ただビューポートだけではレスポンシブデザインは完結しません。同時にメディアクエリも記述しなければならないからです。メディアクエリが必要な理由は、端末ごとに適用するCSSを変更しなければならないからです。例えば、画面幅のピクセル数が小さければスマートフォン用のCSSを適用するために、メディアクエリで調整するわけです。因みにメディアクエリはCSSに直接記述することも出来ますが、HTML内のリンクタグで記述することも出来ます。
 さて、そもそもレスポンシブデザインには、苦労して記述するのに足る価値があるのでしょうか。モバイル端末でもストレスなく閲覧できるように調整する方法としては、レスポンシブデザインしかありません。しかもHTMLとCSSでデザインできるため、運用面でも負担が小さい方法と言えるのです。仮にレスポンシブデザインではなく、別の方法でサイトをモバイル端末に対応させようとすれば、サイトを2つ制作しなければならないことになります。この方法を選択するのは自由ですが、間違いなく管理費用は高くなります。
 簡単に言えば、レスポンシブデザインは、サイトの完成後の更新等を楽にする働きがあるのです。それを象徴するのが、「モバイル端末における表示の際も、同一のURLになる」ということです。URLが同じならSEOの費用もそれだけ小さくなるはずです。何故なら、リンク付けを無駄に増やさなくて済むからです。
レスポンシブデザインの基本は、ビューポートの設定にあります。ビューポートとは、HTMLの表示領域を調整するコードのことで、ヘッドタグ内で記述します。端末ごとに表示領域を変えられるのは、このビューポートのおかげなのです。ただビューポートだけではレスポンシブデザインは完結しません。同時にメディアクエリも記述しなければならないからです。メディアクエリが必要な理由は、端末ごとに適用するCSSを変更しなければならないからです。例えば、画面幅のピクセル数が小さければスマートフォン用のCSSを適用するために、メディアクエリで調整するわけです。因みにメディアクエリはCSSに直接記述することも出来ますが、HTML内のリンクタグで記述することも出来ます。
 さて、そもそもレスポンシブデザインには、苦労して記述するのに足る価値があるのでしょうか。モバイル端末でもストレスなく閲覧できるように調整する方法としては、レスポンシブデザインしかありません。しかもHTMLとCSSでデザインできるため、運用面でも負担が小さい方法と言えるのです。仮にレスポンシブデザインではなく、別の方法でサイトをモバイル端末に対応させようとすれば、サイトを2つ制作しなければならないことになります。この方法を選択するのは自由ですが、間違いなく管理費用は高くなります。
 簡単に言えば、レスポンシブデザインは、サイトの完成後の更新等を楽にする働きがあるのです。それを象徴するのが、「モバイル端末における表示の際も、同一のURLになる」ということです。URLが同じならSEOの費用もそれだけ小さくなるはずです。何故なら、リンク付けを無駄に増やさなくて済むからです。

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プロジェクトが実作業に入ると、計画した内容を管理していくのがプロジェクトマネジャーの主な業務となるはずだ。もっとも大切なスキルのひとつは、プロジェクトチームおよび発注者とのコミュニケーションや、作業効率を上げていくことだ。プロジェクト発足時に行なうべきことと、その周辺知識について考えを伝えていく。

知識のひとつとしては、プロジェクトチーム育成についてを述べよう。

プロジェク卜マネジャーは、チームとして高い成果を上げ
プロジェク卜 目標を達成するために、プロジェクトチームを特定したり、結成したり、その後は維持を図り、時には動機付けをし、チームを引っ張て行き、さらに奮起させるためのスキルを身に付ける必要があると考える。チームワークは、プロジェクトを成功させるために不可欠な要因のひとつであろう。優れたプロジェク卜チームを育成することは、プロジェク卜マネジャーの主要な責任のひとつとなる。
人間関係のスキルは『ソフトスキル』とも呼ばれており、チーム育成に特に重要だと言われている。プロジェク卜チームにおけるメンバーについて、各々の感情を理解し、どんな行動をとるのか予測し、関心事を認識したのちに、そこから今ある課題を追跡することで問題を最小限にし、連携を強化できるようになるはずだ。プロジェクトチームをマネジメン卜するうえで、クループの円滑な意思疎通を可能にするスキルは、貴重な資産となるであろう。

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パフォーマンス 表示速度の重要性 http://www.parable.co.za/%e3%83%91%e3%83%95%e3%82%a9%e3%83%bc%e3%83%9e%e3%83%b3%e3%82%b9-%e8%a1%a8%e7%a4%ba%e9%80%9f%e5%ba%a6%e3%81%ae%e9%87%8d%e8%a6%81%e6%80%a7/ http://www.parable.co.za/%e3%83%91%e3%83%95%e3%82%a9%e3%83%bc%e3%83%9e%e3%83%b3%e3%82%b9-%e8%a1%a8%e7%a4%ba%e9%80%9f%e5%ba%a6%e3%81%ae%e9%87%8d%e8%a6%81%e6%80%a7/#respond Sat, 10 Feb 2018 21:18:19 +0000 http://www.parable.co.za/%e3%83%91%e3%83%95%e3%82%a9%e3%83%bc%e3%83%9e%e3%83%b3%e3%82%b9-%e8%a1%a8%e7%a4%ba%e9%80%9f%e5%ba%a6%e3%81%ae%e9%87%8d%e8%a6%81%e6%80%a7/

表示速度は売上や検索順位に直結します。SEOでもサイト表示速度は非常に大事です。
Amazon が調査した結果(※ )によると、  Web ページの表示速度が 0. 1秒遅れるだけで売上が 1%低下するとのことです。これは、 表示速度が売上に 直結する重要な要素であることを示しています。 SEO の観点からも考慮すると、ユーザビリティを煩ねることになるため、できる限りの改善が望まれます。なお 、Googleはページの表示速度 を 「 検索順位に影響を与える要素」 として 発表 しています 。

まずは、スマー トフォンサイ トでの表示速度を上げるために、どのよ うに改善すればよいかを考えてみます。表示速度に関わっている要素としては、以下の 3 つがあります。

フロントエンド
通信環境
サーバ

●SEO対策を格安でやるなら東京SEOメーカーがおすすめです。

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3 Reasons Why Every Woman Needs A Man Like Jay Z http://www.parable.co.za/3-reasons-why-every-woman-needs-a-man-like-jay-z-2/ http://www.parable.co.za/3-reasons-why-every-woman-needs-a-man-like-jay-z-2/#respond Mon, 09 May 2016 15:04:14 +0000 http://www.parable.co.za/3-reasons-why-every-woman-needs-a-man-like-jay-z-2/

3 Reasons Why Every Woman Needs A Man Like Jay Z

Posted: May 14, 2014 in RELATIONSHIP
Tags: family, Jay Z

Everyone around the world is talking about the video that shows the “drama” between rapper, Jay Z and his beautiful sister-in-law,

Jay Z – Keeping it in the family

Solange Knowles. We may never know the truth because there was no sound and because of that I wouldn’t want to speculate about what really happened or not – I don’t condone Solange’s attack on her brother-n-law either. It’s a family affair, only they know why (some say Solange flip out because she has a hot temper or because Jay Z did something wrong to her sister and she felt the need to defend Beyonce by using her fists).
With Jay Z’s reaction to Solange’s attack, I feel he acted in a very decent, modest and gentleman way. Like a true husband, brother-in-law and leader. So ladies, with his reaction I believe there’s a “Jay Z” in a lot of men. Here’s why?
1. Real men don’t hit women – Jay Z didn’t give her a taste of her own medicine – like a true gentleman he defended himself without retaliating despite his sister-in-law kicking, punching and throwing her shoes on him. He controlled himself.
2. Real men understand family – Jay Z understood that by forming a partnership with Beyonce, there are issues you have to deal with, sometimes complicated.
3. Real men have a family vision – it is obvious Jay Z has a vision for his family – a vision of peace, unity and understanding. By refusing to act like a thug he showed that he is not just a great business man but a great father, husband and brother-in-law.
What would you do if someone in your family attacked you physically?


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Why Some Boyfriends/Husbands Are “Members” Of Boko Haram.#BringBackOurGirls http://www.parable.co.za/why-some-boyfriendshusbands-are-members-of-boko-haram-bringbackourgirls-2/ http://www.parable.co.za/why-some-boyfriendshusbands-are-members-of-boko-haram-bringbackourgirls-2/#respond Thu, 05 May 2016 15:02:37 +0000 http://www.parable.co.za/why-some-boyfriendshusbands-are-members-of-boko-haram-bringbackourgirls-2/

Dishonesty – sign of a good for nothing husband/boyfriend

April 15th 2014 was a sad day for Nigeria, Africa and the world, 230 school girls were kidnapped by an extremist muslim group called Boko Haram, whose name in the Hausa language means “Western education is a sin”. Their age range is between 15-18. The attack in Nigeria is part of a global backlash against girls’ education by extremists. They reportedly are being auctioned off for $12 each to become “wives” of militants. About 50 girls escaped, but the police say that 276 are still missing. It’s indeed time to Bring Back Our Girls

Well, the sad truth is many women are “kidnapped” in so many relationships by dishonest, manipulative, cheating and testosterones-driven men. Unlike these young girls though, they have a choice to either set themselves free or continue as a victim.

Here are 5 reasons why I think your boyfriend or husband is a “member” of Boko Haram:

1. If You Are Staying With Your Boyfriend, He is a member of Boko Haram – Both culturally and religiously unacceptable in the African culture – shacking, cohabiting or vat n sit is a modern day kidnapping through a relationship. He is okay with you moving in so he could have maximum access to the benefits of marriage – cooking, sex, house keeping, financial support etc. You are not a slave. #BringBackOurGirls

2. If He Is Refusing To Get Engaged or Pay Lobola (Dowry) – This is a usual practice lately, to be in a relationship for so long and refusing to move to the next level. Excuses range from “I am not ready”, financially weak, waiting for my dream job etc. #BringBackOurGirls

3. When He Thinks You Are Married Because He Paid Lobola – Paying lobola for me doesn’t equates getting married. Are you legally married with the government department? Are you legally married before God? Paying lobola is a huge step towards getting married, but refusing to complete the process towards marriage is the same as any incomplete project. Nope, you can’t move in together. #BringBackOurGirls

4. He Is Married And You Are His Girlfriend/Side Chick – This man is a strong member of Boko Haram. What happened to faithfulness in marriage, commitment and the vows he made to his wife? Just because he bought you a car, home, clothes and meet your needs doesn’t make him a decent man. He is a member of Bokom Haram, stay away from him, let him go back to his wife. #BringBackOurGirls

5. He Keep Cheating And Changing Women – This is the epitome of this Boko Haram member. He believes he has the right to date and have sex with any woman, at anytime. This man is not ready for any sort of commitment, he will break your heart and leave you emotionally drained. You are not up for auction, so do yourself a favour and not let his charm captivate you. #BringBackOurGirls

The future of our society and family depends a lot on you ladies. You have a great role to play, but if you continue exposing yourself to these “Boko Haram” members, we are all in for a big relationship and societal challenges. So I hope that you will avoid these men.

As for the missing 276 girls, we are praying for you.

#BringBackOurGirls

Have you dated or are in a relationship with a man with these “Boko Haram” symptoms?

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20 Questions Singles Should Ask Before Getting Married http://www.parable.co.za/20-questions-singles-should-ask-before-getting-married-2/ http://www.parable.co.za/20-questions-singles-should-ask-before-getting-married-2/#respond Tue, 03 May 2016 15:00:46 +0000 http://www.parable.co.za/20-questions-singles-should-ask-before-getting-married-2/

Falling in love is great and amazing, I know it because I am in love with my beautiful wife and every time I think about our union I feel excited and hopeful for our future. As we continue to learn about each other daily, I constantly ask myself and God about the best way to be a husband, friend, father and lover to my wife and expectant baby.

Are you asking the right questions?

 

Now before I got married I always ask myself some very important and hard questions before jumping into any relationship or commit to getting married. I believe you have to ask yourself some few questions also before deciding to spend the rest of your life with another person – a partial stranger, don’t set yourself up for failure. Marriage is one of the best and most beautiful creation of God – but it requires hard work.

 

Today we have a very high rate of divorce and failed marriages because a lot of people entered into the marriage union without proper preparation. They felt love is enough to carry them through and missed the important elements of marriage. You need to be real with yourself! There are many solid questions you need to ask yourself even before you interrogate your potential spouse.

Well, here are my 20 questions that I think every single person should ask him or herself before you decide to get married.

1. Do I truly know what commitment, sacrifice and faithfulness is?

2. Am I spiritual, emotional, mentally and financially ready for it?

3. Do I have unresolved issues with my parents or elders, and if so, am I taking steps to work through them?

4. Have I lived on my own, and if not, do I want to?

5. Where do I stand on having children? Do I want kids or not? Have I considered all possibilities?

6. Am I ready and willing to embrace my spouse’s family (including children he or she may have) as my own?

7. Do I know who I am and what I want out of life?

8. Does my joy and happiness only come from this person?

9. Am I still carrying sexual, emotional, behavioural and spiritual baggage from past relationships?

10. When it comes to the life I have dreamed of, what are the things that I consider non-negotiable?

11. Do I believe in traditional roles of a husband and wife in marriage, or do I expect something different?

12. Do I pretend when I am with him/her or I am myself?

13. Why do I want to marry this person? Are they great reasons?

14. What would be missing from my life if she or he weren’t in it?

15. Do we share the same values, principles and worldview?

16. Does he or she respects and value me? Do I?

17. Am I getting married because I want a wedding or because I want to be great marriage?

18. Do I feel pressure by my parents, family, friends, pastor or age to get married?

19. Does he or she bring something of value into my life?

20. Do I know how to submit and to love?

These are just a few of my thoughts, I am sure there are more which you know. Please ponder over it and make a clear and informed decision. Share with me your thoughts.

See you at the altar:-)

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5 Marriage Mistakes That Killed Senzo Meyiwa http://www.parable.co.za/5-marriage-mistakes-that-killed-senzo-meyiwa-2/ http://www.parable.co.za/5-marriage-mistakes-that-killed-senzo-meyiwa-2/#respond Sun, 01 May 2016 14:59:53 +0000 http://www.parable.co.za/5-marriage-mistakes-that-killed-senzo-meyiwa-2/

Senzo with his lovely wife Mandisa

I have a confession to make, football is my second wife. After my first wife this is one game I love so much. I am a huge fan since time immemorial. As a journalist, I have covered FIFA World Cups in Germany 2006, South Africa 2010 and Brazil 2014, interviewing world class footballers. I am also very aware that football is all about MISTAKES. The defenders and goalkeepers need to make mistakes for the opposition to score a goal and win the game. It’s the same thing with our lives, romance, marriages and relationships.

Soccer player, husband and father of three girls – Senzo Meyiwa, made some terrible marriage mistakes outside of his usual tuff, the football field, these I felt contributed in bringing an end to this great and passionate individual’s life.

For the records Senzo met his wife Mandisa Mkhize in Johannesburg in 2005. They got married in 2013 and barely a year later he was seeing (cheating with) singer Kelly Khumalo albeit without Mandisa’s knowledge. Mandisa later found out and a saga ensued with Kelly assaulting Mandisa. Senzo has gone back and forth between the two women over the past year and recently went public with Kelly by his side. Are we surprised that he was murdered while with her?

This is the very same Senzo who had professed his Christian faith publicly, inscribed bible scriptures on his football kit and he never ceased to glorify God for every victory. His wife Mandisa told a newspaper, “He is a real believer and he reads the Bible at every chance he gets. I love his dedication and commitment. He is my hero, a real sweetheart.” This is not to condemn Senzo but instead learning from his marriage flaws, life and family. Senzo, like all of us struggled with sin, his was the sin of infidelity and it gradually led him to his death-bed, sadly. He could have avoided his death if he had rejected making these 5 marriage mistakes.

Here are 5 marriage mistakes which I believe killed Senzo:

1. LACK OF SELF-LEADERSHIP KILLED HIM

On the football field Senzo was both captain of his football club Orlando Pirates and South Africa. He was a great leader on the football field, but on the home front he was unfortunately not proficient as a leader. Now I am not just talking about leadership expression by providing the financial, emotional and social need of his wife and three baby girls, which he did with great results. I am referring to leading by example as a husband and father in a country that is seriously lacking in this area. We are all aware that his own father had to bring him to book regarding this, the Kelly issue.

2. LACK OF INTEGRITY KILLED HIM

Senzo himself confessed to his lack of integrity after his wife found out about his relationship with “the other woman”, Kelly Khumalo. He said, ‘This is all my fault. I lied to them [Kelly and Mandisa]”. Wherever integrity is missing it hurts everyone connected to you, isn’t it. “I approached her [Kelly] and she asked if I am married. But I wasn’t man enough to tell her the truth. As a result, she fell in love with me.” Senzo added.

3. LACK OF FAITHFULNESS KILLED HIM

Kelly only found out he was married five months into their relationship, by then his wife had also heard about the affair when a colleague showed her Kelly’s Instagram account with so many photos of the two of them. Being a Christian himself, Senzo knew the importance of faithfulness to one partner as a husband, but he failed to implement it. His wife said, “When I saw pictures of them looking cosy I got the shock of my life. I was heartbroken and cried hysterically. I called Senzo and told him to respect me as a wife but he denied he was having an affair with Kelly”.

4. SIDE-CHICK KELLY KHUMALO

I know everyone has been blaming Kelly but I don’t see how she should solely be held responsible for his infidelity but then she is partially responsible for it, isn’t it? It takes two to tango. Kelly’s colourful past doesn’t help people’s opinion of her anyway, but for allowing herself to play the role of a mistress after discovering his marital status, she indeed contributed to his demise. Please don’t get me wrong, as I’m not suggesting she pulled the trigger or she arranged a hit on Senzo. However, if the relationship had ended earlier, we wouldn’t be mourning the death of Senzo today. Not surprising, when Kelly visited Senzo’s family she was chased away for bringing destruction into the Meyiwa family.

5. NOT LEARNING FROM HIS PAST

Mandisa was recently quoted in the Sunday Sun as saying: ‘I’m glad my husband is back home. I’m loving every moment. Senzo is a good man who loves his family. I support him in his career and we are now closer than ever.’ However, a few months ago Kelly revealed on social media that she was happily involved with the father of her second child. Senzo Meyiwa met his dead still married to Mandisa and in a relationship with his nyatsi (mistress) Kelly. The good thing about our mistakes is we could become victorious and overcome them whenever we make up our mind to not go back to them. Senzo never exercised this option of grace.

THE FINAL ANALYSIS

Now none of these 5 marriage mistakes pulled the trigger on Senzo. The trigger was pulled by some heartless criminals who don’t value life and lack respect for humanity. But these 5 mistakes surely contributed to Senzo’s demise.

As we mourn the life of the legendary Senzo Meyiwa, are we as men going to continue seeking for other relationships outside our wives? Are we going to say “do not judge because only God can judge me” like Tupac? Are we going to keep destroying our wives, children and home as we seek for temporal sexual gratification elsewhere? God forbid.

I feel Senzo was even dead long before he got shot by these merciless intruders. The way God made it, a married man is already dead whenever he is torn between the love of two women, whenever he fail to keep his covenant.

When I think about my own beautiful wife and son, I wonder if the same marriage mistakes which killed Senzo Meyiwa could kill me one day, if I let it that is. I don’t blame Senzo, I blame his mistakes.

Our deepest condolences go out to his wife, children, family, fellow soccer players, fans and yes, Kelly Khumalo, the nyatsi (the other woman). May our beloved Senzo’s soul rest in peace.

HAMBA KAHLE Senzo! Once a pirate, Always a pirate!

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Open LOVE Letter To Kelly Khumalo – About Senzo Meyiwa, Cheating And Marriage http://www.parable.co.za/open-love-letter-to-kelly-khumalo-about-senzo-meyiwa-cheating-and-marriage-3/ http://www.parable.co.za/open-love-letter-to-kelly-khumalo-about-senzo-meyiwa-cheating-and-marriage-3/#respond Fri, 29 Apr 2016 14:57:43 +0000 http://www.parable.co.za/open-love-letter-to-kelly-khumalo-about-senzo-meyiwa-cheating-and-marriage-3/

Late Senzo Meyiwa and his girlfriend Kelly Khumalo

Dear Kelly,

I am writing to you publicly, to tell you how sorry I am for the recent loss of your boyfriend, Senzo Meyiwa, and the excessive attack you received via the social media from people who disapproved of your role as a nyatsi (the other woman).  You don’t deserve all those harsh words, my dear.  You are very talented, lovely, beautiful and sometimes, God-loving young woman.

I would also like to apologise for the way men have used you over the years.  I know you desire to get married, but as it is, you are still single.  The result of some men’s dishonestly in your relationship with them is evident in your status as a single mother of two lovely kids; one with a father in prison and the other with a late father.  I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.

You don’t deserve all this from men, because you are a beauty and you have brains.  But it does seems your beauty overtakes your brain in some of your decision making, a case of trading physical looks for personal character.

You don’t deserve all this rubbish from men because all cheating men tell their girlfriends they will divorce their wives.  Sad as it may be, I am sure that Senzo probably sold you the same dummy.  It’s the best and oldest line married men use to score beautiful single women like you.

You don’t deserve all this nonsense from men because you are worth so many cows for lobola, but your family hasn’t received a single cow yet.

You don’t deserve all this abuse from men because everybody around you may have told you it was not your fault; that it was all your ex-boyfriend’s fault.

You don’t deserve all this lack of appreciation from men because some men are in a relationship or married.  It was only for “fun” and “just sex”.

You don’t deserve all these lies from men because your “fun” with a married man means a lot of pain to another woman.  What about girl code?  “Sleeping with a guy who’s in a relationship will hurt someone”.

I remember you back in 2003 when as a 20 year old with your 12 year old sister Zandile, you competed in the talent search of SABC 1’s gospel programme Crux.  You did well.  At the time you had mentioned that, and I quote you, “I’ve wanted to sing gospel all my life. Winning the competition will mean I’ll be able to tell people about God. To me gospel music is not just about singing, it’s about ministering to people as well.”

Today, with all the fame I wonder what happened to that innocent, lovely and honest girl.  The best way to minister to people as you’d mentioned back in 2003 is to be honest, show integrity, transparency and refuse to be the other woman.  That is what one calls being a bearer of good news.

I would like to suggest that next time you get an opportunity to enter into a relationship with someone who is in another relationship or married, walk away from all that and avoid all the self, spiritual and corporate damage. Unfortunately Senzo will never be your husband even if he’d planned to divorce his wife, Mandisa, because he is now no more.

In any case, it doesn’t work that way. You would have broken Godly principles of marriage if you did.

I will be praying for you for a God fearing husband.

Sincerely,

One Woman Husband – with no girlfriend

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Why Pastors Love Sex And Cheating http://www.parable.co.za/why-pastors-love-sex-and-cheating-2/ http://www.parable.co.za/why-pastors-love-sex-and-cheating-2/#respond Wed, 27 Apr 2016 14:56:44 +0000 http://www.parable.co.za/why-pastors-love-sex-and-cheating-2/

Pastors love too much sex? Pastor Zondo on the cover of the Daily Sun

Earlier this week a video showing well renowned Pastor and popular Ukhozi FM motivational speaker, Sthembiso Zondo in the nude, went viral on social media.

The recorded video, taken by a woman sitting in front of him, shows the unmarried Pastor Zondo talking on his phone, while pacing up and down around the lounge in front of a woman sitting on a couch, the video shows the pastor wearing nothing, using his hand to rub his penis, twice. Divorced Zondo is the founder and senior pastor of Soul Renaissance Ministries Durban, South Africa, established in 2001. He also founded Zero-to-Hero, an NGO whose objective is to preach the gospel of hope.

This is indeed a very sad story seeing that Pastor Zondo influences millions of people and is ranked as one of the most influential pastors in South Africa. The new rockstars in town are definitely pastors, they command respect, attention, drive state-of-the art cars, they are always on TV and radio and wear designer clothes.

One statistic in a book “Fallen Pastor: Finding Restoration In A Broken World” by Ray Carroll shows that 33% of pastors have crossed the line with a woman not their spouse but have not been caught. That is an alarming number. More and more pastors are cheating on God and cheating on their spouses – married and unmarried.
A lot of people commenting on social media about pastor Zondo’s issue didn’t see anything wrong with his action insisting that the notion of thou shall not “judge the man of God”, while some are asking him to step away from being a pastor and speaker because he has broken ranks from his godly office. Taking from the scene  and mood of the 37 seconds video it looks like the woman is his sexual partner. Even if she’s not (highly unlikely), the question remains, why was he parading himself naked in front of a woman?

So why do male pastors cheat on their wives or fornicate though unmarried? Some have many girlfriends with no shame. Though a lot is expected of a deacon, elder, or pastor, “it seems that cheating has become the new normal, the new cool perhaps”

The truth is that most pastors are ordinary feeble men and are prone to like every man to be vulnerable to sexual attraction. There is no difference between pastors and other ordinary men. Pastors commit sexual sin for the same reason people who are not pastors do. What is that? Well, it consist of different reasons ranging from the abuse of influence to temptations, vulnerable needs and weaknesses.

Pastors engage in sexual sins because we allow them. We keep quiet when we find out that a pastor is cheating on his wife or in sexual association with another woman though he’s unmarried. We misuse phrases from the bible like “who are you to judge”, “touch not the Lord’s anointed” and “him who is without sin cast the first stone”.  What rubbish!

Some women are the reason why pastors cheat and have sexual encounters. They devalue themselves and offer their vagina to these fraudulent men of God, thinking it would increase God’s blessings in their lives and upgrade their social and spiritual status. That’s a lie from hell. Women selling themselves cheap encourage pastors to satisfy their lustful pleasure with whoever, whenever. I know so many single pastors who are dating multiple women, some are aware of it and still hang around them. Run baby!

Also, sometimes married pastors are bored with their wives and vulnerable to “something different.” But some cheaters have great wives and are not bored. So, this is no answer. Some single pastors just don’t want to commit to their girlfriends or one woman. They ride on the attention and influence they have over vulnerable women in the church.

Certain pastors think they are stronger than they are. But they are not – we all are not. Don’t believe your hype, your office as a pastor does not make you immune to temptations and sin. I have heard of a Congolese pastor based in Johannesburg pastoring a mega church in Midrand who uses every opportunity to lure young women into satisfying his sexual passions. He still prides himself as a miracle maker. We all need help. We need a community of faith, mentors, friends, family and a net to fall into.

Furthermore, pastors feel they are in love with the sexual partner and justify it as “what I’ve been searching for all my life.” But they are just as likely to know going in that this is temporary, shallow, one-dimensional, and its trouble, yet they still do it. This is no answer.

Bottom line is pastors cheat and engage in fornication because just like us, we are all sinners in need of grace daily.  They allow their relationship with God to get to a broken state. They get weak and don’t reach out for help.

So if you are Pastor Zondo, what would you say to your congregation this Sunday? The devil made me do it?

Pastors are sinners too. Pray for your pastor.

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South Africans Are SINNERS, Not Xenophobic http://www.parable.co.za/south-africans-are-sinners-not-xenophobic-3/ http://www.parable.co.za/south-africans-are-sinners-not-xenophobic-3/#respond Mon, 25 Apr 2016 14:56:02 +0000 http://www.parable.co.za/south-africans-are-sinners-not-xenophobic-3/

Sin, not xenophobia is damaging us

Before 1994 foreigners from everywhere in Africa faced discrimination and even violence in South Africa, though much of that risk was from the institutionalised racism of the time due to the aparthied system. After the first democratic election and the enthronement of the ANC in 1994, contrary to expectations, the incidence of xenophobia didn’t disappear but increased. Between 2000 and 2015 at least 100 people died in what were identified as xenophobic attacks.

In January 2015 rioters targeted shops and properties of foreign nationals in Johannesburg suburb and other locations. Sadly, it is understood that a young school boy was shot and killed during this incidents. The attacks were motivated by xenophobia but it is ultimate a SIN problem. SIN is when you break the law that governs peaceful co-existence. Sin is the reason we murder others, Sin is the reason why we steal from others. Sin is the reason why we dislike the success of even our brothers. Sin is the reason why we only care about ourselves. Man by nature is sinful and evil. So to honestly tell you how I feel, I feel it is sin that got us here.

WE ARE SINNERS because we allowed xenophobia and racism to be part of our past and current generations. This has continued for so many years without being addressed by the government and people.

WE ARE SINNERS because drugs and alcohol has taken over control of our emotions and senses. Sin doesn’t allow us to make sound and balance judgment anymore when it comes to tolerance and showing hospitality to our neighbours due to our constant intoxication.

WE ARE SINNERS because we don’t practice what we preach anymore. We have lost the loving touch of “ubuntu”. We talk about it, sing it, recite it and even wear the costumes but we don’t practice it. Instead we see neighbours as economical and social enemies.

WE ARE SINNERS because though we are out of the apartheid era, apartheid is still in us. We have adopted a system that works to exclude some persons for selfish reasons.

WE ARE SINNERS because a lot of people who left their countries due to economical or social oppression can’t find a home amongst us. Sin has turned us into “terrible host”.

WE ARE SINNERS because certain townships and areas are not safe for foreigners anymore. Why is that? Are we now trying to decide who comes into my side of the town or city to conduct business? What happened to the freedom of movement? Sin will make you feel insecure even in your own home.

WE ARE SINNERS because lives were lost from both the foreign and the local side of the population. Sin has engrafted us to the point of being insensitive to murder and place no value on human life. It’s sad that we lost fathers, brothers, children etc. How do you justify this?

WE ARE SINNERS because we have created the whole situation into us against them. We prejudice other African nationals. Sin separates people based on race, tribe, religion, nationality etc. We have created hatred, accusations and insensitivity amongst us.

WE ARE SINNERS because we have allowed this situation to keep happening, from one generation to the other with no hope of resolving it. Sin has made us to pass xenophobia through our “DNA”, like an inheritance that is passed on to our children. I am afraid my son will turn out the same way. For how long will this continue?

WE ARE SINNERS because we have failed for many years to realise that xenophobia is not the problem but sin. Like Christians would say “Man has been sinning since the fall of Adam in the garden of Eden”

WE ARE SINNERS and thus need a saviour, and it seems the government or NGOs are sure not that. The solution to all the xenophobic tragedies is far beyond education, tolerance or mediation. It is all about the transformation of the heart and soul of sinful the man. Bringing God into the equation gives me hope for South Africa and Africa.

So just like every human, South Africans are sinners, not xenophobic. I’m a sinner too!

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